Feeling like your boss doesn’t like you can be a huge distraction! And if you don’t handle it right, it can start to snowball. You feel like they’re breathing down your neck, just waiting for you to make a mistake and then suddenly you can’t focus on your job. Which will only sabotage your performance. And then they really will hate you if they didn’t already. Here are some tips to manage your relationship with your supervisor in a mature and productive way.
Poll the office
Don’t really poll the office, just casually get a feel for how other people are feeling. Are you the only one who feels this way? Or are other people in the same boat? Notice which of your co-workers seem to have a positive relationship with her. What are they doing right that you’re not? Ask for some advice from your co-workers, find out what kinds of behaviors and qualities your boss appreciates, and do your best to show them off.
Change your mindset
Sometimes a perceived dislike is just that—it’s in our heads. If you think your boss hates you, then you start to avoid them. And then things are awkward between you and becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy! Instead, break the cycle by being friendly, respectful, and courteous. Your boss could never hate someone like that!
Up your game
Don’t give your boss any reason to hate you—improve your performance! Let them know all the little things you do to add value to the company. Ask for feedback and suggestions for improvement. Ask for more frequent performance evaluations or see if you can meet every other week or so to check-in, receive advice, inquire about professional development opportunities. In other words, show off how productive and ambitious you are, you’ll demonstrate that you’re taking the initiative to advance your career.
Leave if you have to
Sometimes, no matter what you do, certain relationships are just toxic. If you’ve tried to better your relationship and it’s not improving, consider looking for a new job. It’s not worth being miserable at work. Just maintain a respectful, gracious demeanor. Don’t make them fire you before you’re ready to leave! Plus, you’ll want a solid reference. Make them remember your professionalism, your integrity, and how much you added to the company. Remember that bad blood with an old boss raises a red flag to future hiring managers.
Sometimes workers might face unfair discrimination based on race, religion, sex, or nationality, which is against the law. If this is the case for you, you can file a complaint with the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission. It’s a very serious process and should be addressed.
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Blog written by Erin Greenhalgh